ASOS Curve Wiggle Cut Out Back Dress Review

Yesterday I spent the day with my family (sans kids) celebrating my youngest cousin tying the knot. It was a truly beautiful day! Knowing that I’d be spending the day child-free meant I didn’t have to worry so much about getting smeared in child goo so I decided to risk it and go for this ASOS pale blue wiggle dress. (currently in the sale reduced to £29).

Last week I talked about the not so constructive feedback about this particular choice of outfit so today I’m going to just focus on showing you how it looked and giving a little review so you can draw your own conclusions! 😊

When the dress arrived it was rather creased – I kind of hoped these would drop out so I kept it hanging up for well over a week with no joy. So I had to dig out the iron. The care label said to iron on a low heat, on reverse without steam. This had no affect whatsoever so I took a gamble and gradually turned the iron up. 3 attempts – up to a medium heat (and a burnt arm) and a steamy bathroom made little difference to the dress so I had no option but to wear it creased. 😞 I think it looked alright but it wasn’t the high-end, slick look I was hoping for (perhaps my hopes were a bit high for a £42 dress reduced to £29 but I like seeking out bargains to achieve champagne chic on a beer budget!).

This is the first time I’ve got my husband to take photos for my blog – and he makes me laugh A LOT and he got me pratting about! I liked the silly/laughing photos more than the traditional poses so I kept them in! 

As well as the crease issues, I also managed to rip the front slit on the front of the dress along the seam. The dress wasn’t tight at all (I’d upsized because I thought it looked better being slightly baggy) so it was a bit annoying that it tore so easily. The material (or maybe the stitching) didn’t have much stretch to it and was a bit too flimsy in my opinion – which is a real shame.

I styled the dress with a pair of sparkly peep toe heels I bought for £4 off eBay (similar here – although not quite as cheap!)… 

…this beautiful clutch bag…

…and an old long-line necklace…

…and vintage hair combs (which I wore for my own wedding almost 8 years ago!)

I totally forgot to take any more photos from the back so this will have to do!

I loved the style and overall look of the dress, particularly the cut out back which framed my tattoo and the hang of the sleeves. I think I’d like it better if it had been made in a heavier fabric with a bit of stretch. Overall I loved the look and it was nice to try something different to my usual vintage inspired swing dress look!

…When You Say Nothing At All!

…When You Say Nothing At All!

I can’t believe that I’m off to my gorgeous cousin’s wedding next week…! If you’re a regular here or on Instagram you may recall that the outfit I’d picked out wasn’t exactly suitable so I’ve been searching for an alternative…! A proper post about my chosen outfit will follow (once I get some good photos next weekend!) but this post is actually about trying different sizes and (if you like to wear it) shapewear to transform an outfit. It’s also a little bit about the feedback I got when I asked the plus “community” for advice… 😂

My aim was to find an outfit to work around my gorgeous Bagladee clutch bag (sadly she’s stopped making them now):

My other requirement was that it needed to not be my usual vintage full circle swing style dress as my mam has decided to wear something like that to the wedding and I don’t want to look like her doppelganger either!

I’d been um-ing and ah-ing over this dress for ages (probably months!) and kept finding myself going back to it every time I look around for something. When it was reduced from £42 to £29 I figured I’d better snap it up! I usually size up with ASOS but they didn’t have a size 26 available at the time so I went for my usual size – a 24. When I tried the dress on I could just about do it up but decided I would be more comfortable sizing up and trying some shapewear to iron out the lumps and bumps. 

So I decided to ask my peers in a Facebook plus size blogger group for shapewear advice…

The comments I received included individuals telling me they didn’t think the dress suited me. It was the wrong style/shape/colour for me or that I should try a pattern rather than a plain fabric. I was also told it wasn’t ‘flattering’.

Fortunately, these days my emotional shoulders are as broad as my physical ones and I was able to ignore the unrequited critical feedback but there was a time when I wouldn’t have been able to. Nobody was outright nasty in their comments but the old me would’ve perceived it that way. I’d have sent the dress back and felt self conscious that my body was wrong and that I should be hiding it away. Or at least covering it with something “flattering”.

These days I say “F*ck that! I love this dress and I’m going to find a way to rock it!”

So I sized up to a 28 – hoping it would be kimono-esque baggy in the sleeves and boob area, skimming over my hips and belly rather than being clingy. 

I’m also wearing a control slip to disguise the belly VPL – a personal preference. Here’s the back:

I absolutely love the dress and the different style (for me) puts me out of my comfort zone a little. I can’t wait to create the finished look next week! (I’ll iron it too…!)
So to recap, my point is:

  • Don’t be put off by comments online. Especially if they weren’t requested. Wear what you love. If you love it and feel fabulous in it you will look great!
  • The size label in your clothing is arbitrary. Finding something that fits well is much more important. A smaller size isn’t always better and doesn’t make you a better person or anything. And besides – nobody is reading the label when you’re looking fab!

And to those of you who post critical comments on something where feedback hasn’t been requested:

  • I was always told “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything”. Or as Ronan might say “You say it best when you say nothing at all”. 😊

Have you had negative feedback for an outfit you loved? How did you react or respond?

Perfect Plus Petticoats!

Perfect Plus Petticoats!

I’ve been on the Hunt for a few weeks for a new vintage-inspired frilly petticoat to go under some of my dresses… I already have a black one by “Lindy Bop” which does the job but it’s a bit scratchy on my legs which I find irritating. It’s also a bit on the tight side so can be a little bit hot and sweaty – not the look I was going for!

I was hoping I could find a soft, frilly white petticoat in a true to size 24/26 so it would be on the looser side. Ideally I wanted to spend less than £40. I was planning to wear it under this Silly Old Sea Dog dress as part of my farmer fancy dress outfit for Latitude Festival in Suffolk this weekend:

Finding something suitable wasn’t as easy peasy as I’d anticipated…😟
I tried all of the usual plus size online retailers but most either only went up to a size 22 or were currently out of stock. I was a bit wary of getting something off ebay in case it wasn’t very good quality or wouldn’t be delivered on time so thought I’d try my luck with my old favourite – Etsy to see if there was someone who could make me one.

I found a vintage clothing seller who was selling plus size petticoats – My Vintage, although listed as ‘handmade’ (in order to get around Etsy’s listing system) the item description  of the petticoat I chose indicated that it was a brand new tagged item. I also knew that although the £35 price tag should offer a reasonable level of quality it wouldn’t cover the cost of a handmade petticoat so was happy with that as long as it met my brief. 

When it arrived I was very disappointed. It was too small (I’d say much closer to a 20 or smaller) and also damaged:

It was also rather scratchy… 😞 fortunately the lady I messaged at My Vintage was apologetic and was willing to accept a return/refund. I’d definitely look at buying other items from them again – just not their petticoats!

So it was back to the drawing board. Feeling like I was running out of options I was forced to give eBay another look. I found this ‘Banned’ petticoat in a 5xl (size 24) for just shy of £40 with free postage (making it the same total price as the last one). 

This one was everything I was after! Soft, full, not too tight. It felt light and airy and not at all scratchy! It was almost too nice to wear to a festival! But I did…!
Unfortunately I didn’t manage to get a good full length photo so you’ll have to imagine how amazing the petticoat looked… But trust me – it looked awesome! 😄 

Here’s the best I’ve got, and it really doesn’t do it justice!:

(we were dressed as farmers… I was a farmers wife…!)

I’m hoping to wear it again in a few weeks under one of my new Lindy Bop dresses but I might have to try and wash the festival smell out of it first! 😷